The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone- Part 2

To pick up where I left off, I was sharing my 10X wisdom from Grant Cardone’s book, The 10X Rule. As discussed in my previous post, the idea of the 10X rule is to believe that the world is at your fingertips and you can have anything you want, as long as you take 10X consistent action to meet those goals.

Cardone says to “Never ever reduce a target, instead increase your actions.” If you set a goal to be a millionaire by 40 years old and you’ve just turned 35 and are not even making 6 figures, then the amount of effort that you thought you were going to have to put forth, needs to be adjusted. Do not adjust your goal to fit your effort. Being successful is not meant to be easy. If it were, then everyone would be a millionaire. I think what Cardone is trying to instill in the reader is that any target, with the right amount of actions, with persistence over the right amount of time is attainable.

The 10X rule assumes that the target is never unattainable. Any target attack with the right amount of actions with persistence is attainable.

Once this idea is understood, Cardone moves into success and the explaining that there is no one defintion of this word. Success is different for everyone. However, he also expresses that no matter who you are success 1) is important 2) is your duty 3) has no shortage.

Obviously, I want to be successful, as does anyone who picks up a Grant Cardone book. We are seeking the advise of how to be successful from someone who has reached their goals of success. There are people who define may define their success as maintaining a simple 9-5 and providing for their family. This is fine for those people because they feel as though they are meeting Cardone’s definition of success. I, on the other hand, as well as all of you reading this article, may have a 9-5 and are providing for their family but we have a desire to reach a hire level of success. According to Cardone, ther is no shortage, so whatever level we chose to target we will need 10X effort and be persistent.

Let’s talk about this 10X action that is continually being mentioned. Grant Cardone discusses 4 degrees of action. Everyone is inacting one of these actions at all time.

Do Nothing – is exactly as it reads. Targets are set but no action is taken to reach them. Let me give you a really simple example; the light bulb in your bedroom is really dim and you keep saying that you need to change it out and get a brighter bulb. Every time that you turn the light on in the room you say the same thing but you do nothing. Eventually the bulb will go out and you will have to change it out but if you don’t happen to have a brighter bulb in the house will you just throw in another dim one and continue the cycle of annoyance due to the dim lighting in your room.

Retreat – means to actually run away from the goal. If for instance you have an assignment due, you literally do everything possible to get out of having to do the assignment, (ie say you’re sick, pay someone else to do it).

Normal Levels of Action – is taking average action toward meeting a goal. This, Cardone, says is the most dangerous level of action to take because it feels like you’re doing something but you’re obviously not doing enough to reach your 10X target. Because of that it’s hard for someone using normal levels of action to recognize that they are not really doing nearly enough to reach their target.

Massive Action – is when you work relentlessly, taking the right amount of action to attain your goals. At this stage, you will create new levels of problems and begin receiving criticism from other people. For example, when you make a lot of money, you also get taxed a whole lot more. You’re also labeled by others and are judged by the mediocre people that may be taking normal levels of action. In order to take massive action, you must take very opportunity that comes along.

That was a mouthful.” Haha!

This seems like a good place to pause for now.

The 10X Rule author Grant Cardone

I live humbly in a 2 bedroom apartment with my son in Chino Hills, CA.  I currently work a 9-5 and take care of my baby and home each and every day.  I live a pretty average life but you know what?  I’m not happy with that!  I have always felt that I was not born to be average.  Neither was millionaire Grant Cardone.

One of my mentors, recommended his book, The 10X Rule, to me and I must say that I really enjoyed it and am excited to share what I feel are some important points to remember that will help you apply the 10X rule to your own life or business.

I’m sure by now, you’re asking yourself, “What is the 10X rule?”  How I understood it, the 10X rule is basically the idea that in order to be successful, you need to work 10X as hard as anyone else in your field.  For example, if you are in sales and have a quota to sell 15 cars this month but apply the 10X rule then you will have to work 10X as hard to reach your personal goal of 10X 15 cars.  This is how success is built, per Grant Cardone.

The general idea of the 10X rule consists of the following:

  • Define goals and ability to assess how much effort is needed to get to goals
  • 10 X levels of thinking; setting targets 10X more than what you dream of or want
  • Pure domination mentality; being a model for others thoughts and actions.

The book explains how we as human beings have lists of goals that we would like to accomplish but many times we underestimate the amount of effort needed to achieve that goal.  Being a human being, this resonates with me…lol  Like, I’m sure it resonates with you all as well.  Understanding the effort and the willingness to put forth more than what is needed will get you there.

I used to run the 400 meters in track when I was in high school but my coach would make me run half a mile to a mile during practice.  This was called conditioning because I was preparing my body to run a lot further than I needed to, so when the day of the race came, the 400 meters that I had to run will feel like nothing.  I see Grant Cardone’s 10X rule as an application of this training for your mind with success as the goal instead of a race.

Take the time to define your goals with 10X thinking levels.  If you want a house with a family…set your sites on a your dream house (instead of any house) and your dream family.  Do not take anything into consideration money, or “realism” just sit back, close your eyes and jot down all of the goals that you would love to meet in your life.  Be free and imaginative in your thoughts.  The idea is to not limit yourself because you have to believe and literally anything is possible.

I’ll leave you all with that thought and we’ll talk more about Mr. Cardone in my next post.

Positive Parenting

parenting-stylesMy nephew was looking for a job and I just so happen to have a friend who owns a limo company ( in Chino Hills.  The office is close to his house and hours are flexible which is perfect because he goes to school as well.  I called up my friend and he agreed to interview my nephew.  I play middle man and set up time, etc.  My sister and I bring him to the interview, for support of course.  We were anxiously waiting which was obvious to him as he was walking to the car after the interview.

As soon as he gets in the car, of course we begin probing him, trying to get an idea of how the interview went.  My nephew says that the first question he was asked was “Tell me about yourself.”  My nephew, began to explain how proceeded to tell the interviewer, my friend, where he was born and who he lives with, the school he graduated from and year of graduation.  My sister and I giggled.  She said to him, “What an idiot!  He was asking about your job history, not an auto-biography of your life!”  At the time, I did snicker a bit because I thought it was funny but in hindsight, my sister could have approached his comment in a much more positive manner.  This anecdote, however, gives you an idea of how we were raised.  Putdowns, shame and name calling were all used during parenting when we were growing up.

According to Amy Greene’s article we, as parents have to look at how I parents raised us and basically identify which areas they did well in versus the areas that could use a little improvement.

We can start by asking the following questions.

  • What did our parents do well that we want to utilize in our parenting?
  • What did our parents do that we do want to do differently?
  • What kind of childhood did our parents have?
  • In what ways did our parents hurt our feelings as a child? Can we now look back and view the situation with compassion?
    • Basically we want to try and understand why our parents’ may have reacted the way that they did which unintentionally hurt us as children.

Once these questions have been answered then we will have a better understanding to the root of our parenting techniques.  After that is discovered we can move on to actually switching parenting styles to positive parenting.

When it’s time to make the switch Amy Greene, recommends the following:

  • Identify which habit you want to address; only work on one habit at a time. (i.e. stop spanking)
  • Post or set reminders. (i.e. hanging screaming monkeys all around the house to remind yourself not to yell)
  • Begin keeping a journal. (jot down positive things; for instance list 3 things that you’re grateful for each night)
  • Patience with yourself and with your kids. (change is difficult and takes adjusting; nobody is perfect)
  • Join a group or forum with other positive parents.
  • Extend compassion to your own parents. (it’s important for your child to see that you have good relationship with your parents as part of their positive development)

This article really enlightened my outlook on parenting.  It not only provided steps to take in order to implement positive parenting but I, personally, liked the fact that the writer wasn’t raised in a positive parenting environment but still had the desire to try and do better for her child; since this is my story as well.

It will most definitely be a challenging but this article inspired me to really attempt to make that change.

I know, I used Everybody Loves Raymond as an example in a previous post but this show has some really good life examples!  Check out the video snippet from YouTube below which is a great example of active listening which is an aspect of positive parenting.

Enjoy!  Catch you guys on the next one! :)

What is Positive Parenting?

In my last post I was talking about how I was raised in a disciplinary, “dictatorship” type of household and am looking for a different, more positive approach to parenting. I began to do some research on the subject of positive parenting. Iif this concept or phrase is new to you, like it is to me, you may be asking yourself, “What is poitive parenting?”

According to Amy Greene- author of the article on A Fine Parent called “Positive Parent Even if You weren’t Raised by One”– positive parenting is defined by the ability to respond to your child’s needs and emotions while taking their developmental stage into account. Positive parenting focus’ on more on problem solving, rather than controlling behaviors. It is designed to avoid punishments, shaming, name-calling, spankings etc. It refrains from punishements which apparently “undermine moral development.” This strategy encourages the child to ask “What kind of person do I want to be,” rather than “What do they expect from me and what will happen if I don’t do what they want?”

As a mother, I personally couldn’t imagine a disciplinary approach that doesn’t involve punishements. This again, is the way that I was brought up and is easy for me to use the same methods of parenting that was used during my growth.

If you’re thinking, “Man, this positive parenting sounds hard.” You and I are on the same page, at this point!

Amy Greene, suggests that it is important for the parent to evalute their relationship with their own parents in order to be able to effectively apply the techniques of positive parenting. She was from an abusive home, as was I, and recommends counseling in order to fully understand the relationship between you and your parents.

This resonates with me, which may be why I was drawn to this article. If Ms. Greene was able to overcome her past and work thru her demons in order to bring a sense of positivity to her parenting, then so can I!

The article is pretty intense and very detailed. Lucky for you, you got me! I’ll review it and pull out the goods for you parents who are thinking of adopting this technique.

I’ll catch you guys on the next post! :)

Better Parenting Strategies

Single Parent Household

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As an extension of thinking positively I thought, what about parenting positively? I try to create a positive environment for my son but it’s not easy. Being a single mom and working FT can be a very stressful job sometimes. Especially when you add starting a business and trying to stay healthy and workout. Where has all of the time gone? Haha!

No pity party here…only spittin’ the facts!

If there wasn’t a problem I wouldn’t be so diligently looking for a solution, que no? Lol “Like how I threw in a little Spanish in there? Haha! Thank you Corona, CA. Ha!

Anyway, so I remember being terrified of my mom growing up. It was definitely more of a dictatorship in my household than a democracy. “We was in Cuba!” lol I’m only kidding…

Point being, my mother and I didn’t have an open relationship growing up. I tried to keep EVERYTHING from her because I knew the answer would be no. That strategy didn’t work too well. Lol She knew everything! Our relationship grew worse before it got better. On the other hand, she taught me to be respectful, tidy, responsible, giving and kind to people. I’m looking for a method of parenting where I can instill the positive attributes in my son while letting him know that I am open and here for him to talk to or share anything with.

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Changing Your Mood

Alright, so I’ve really been trying to improve myself, on many levels.  What I’ve learned so far is that positive thoughts bring positive things.  It’s so funny because when I begin learning about something it seems like examples or references to what I’m learning begin popping up all around me.

For instance…I read and watched “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne, about a year ago.  I know that I’m super late jumping on that bandwagon but I’m a late adopter, what do you want from me? Ha!

Anyway, if you’re not familiar with the  book or movie, “The Secret” is a theory that basically is aligned with the law of attraction.  It says that by not only thinking positively but by feeling good or positively you dispense a positive energy thereby atracting postive energy.  “The Secret” also says that if you focus on the things that you want in your life and create the feeling that you already have these things that you will manifest them in your real life.  However, there is no timing on how long or in what way you will receive your wants.

Whew!  I sounded all smart and ish…lol

Okay, so knowing what “The Secret” is and how positive thinking will positively effect your life, negative thinking will have the same effect.  Basically, you create the life that you want to live, whether you know it or not.

So, I’m watching “Everybody Loves Raymond” on Netflix.  It’s a comedy tv show about Ray Barrone and his family (wife and 3 kids) who live across the street from his parents and his brother, who lives at his parents’ off an on.  If you haven’t seen the show Ray is the youngest boy of 2 and is a huge mama’s boy.  He has a successful “dream” career as a sports writer for a popular newspaper.  Ray has the beautiful wife and daughter as well as adorable twin boys.

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Robert on the other hand, is a divorced bachelor who lived at his parents’ house for a while before getting his own house.  He’s a police officer who is insanely jealous of Ray.  He and Ray’s personalities are complete opposites in most cases.  Robert is like Jan and Ray is Marsha.

In this episode, Robert’s hours get cut at work and he goes to Raymond’s house just as Debra and Ray are leaving to go to the movies.  Debra invites Robert to join them at the movies against Ray’s poking…lol  Robert declines the invite and begins telling them about his hours being cut and that he had to cut back a bit on certain things.  Like eating a lot of bologna and cancel cable.  Robert only wanted to watch Ray’s satellite tv.  Ray and Debra were both shocked to hear about Robert canceling his cable.  Debra felt so bad that she convinced Ray to give Robert $1000 to help catch him up on bills, etc…  Robert was appreciative…cried a little even and Ray hugged him.

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